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Do I have self worth issues?
PLEASE READ, ADVICE OPINIONS ARE WHAT I WANTSo basically heres my life. I was born into a family that divorced when I was 10 and I ended up living with my mom and 3 younger sisters. I only saw my Dad once a week but our contact was so little and it grew to be worse until just recently when i have reached out and made him a part of my life, i loved him but my mom would tell me that he was a bad guy even though I knew he wasn't to me. I dont know what a " man" acts like or what a " mans" interests are.Since me and my dad had a little kid relationship and didnt mature and grow into a man relationship I feel like all my relationships are little kid relationships, i dont have a personality i only laugh and everything and say stupid things like haha yeah or o that sux and i listen. I also stutter and have stuttered my whole life. that is important. Everyone I ask says its not that bad or " they dont notice it" but I am my worst critic and I know I stutter. I punish myself in my head and am SOO self conscience about my stutter that self consciencly I have stopped talking and I dont know how to communicate with people. I dont know how to act my age and I dont know what I want. My mom sheltered me and is really involved in my life in the decision making aspect, its like now that shes gone I dont know how to make choices by myself. She is also kind of controlling and i feel like alot of my friendships i am submissive and take things i shouldnt. She shopped for me and since i never had a father figure really I tried to be a guy but the only guy things i was were through my friends and what they were like. I feel like I dont know what i like and i cant choose what i want in life. also i think i look at porn way to much so i have stopped. Everyone seems to like me because i am SOO nice not being cocky or anything, I feel like i have to be nice to everyone and hold doors and complament everyone because they like me and i get attention and i dont really have to talk much. I am 18 and I am a freshman in college.I know whatever is wrong with me people will say " O your just a freshman that happens frehsman year" but thats not the caserandom days i think i am the biggest peice of shit on earth and that i am worth nothing. I am not worth nothing i am a damn good athlete, people like me and i have a great life except for the fact that i dont have a personality and i cant hold a conversationMAYBE IM JUST RAMBLING ON BUT I WANT A NORMAL LIFE AND I WANT TO BE ABLE TO TALK NORMALLY AND HAVE PERSONALITY AND BE MY OWN PERSON
I always seem to think other people are better than me... how can I raise my self worth/esteem?
I'm 20 years old, female and I go to university. I'm doing a psychology degree go figure lol although what I'd really love to do is art. I don't do art just because I worry I won't be able to support myself on that type of qualification.I was wondering whether it's my family that has caused helped my low self esteem, because I've been taught that your family influences who you are as a person a lot.My mum is very socially isolated says she doesn't need other people and has no real friends and gets very socially anxious around most people. My dad has ok self esteem but me and him don't get along well and haven't since I became a teen.My little brother 15 doesn't have a self esteem issue like me.Any tips would be much appreciated
How can i get over my low self worth and bad self complex after being raped?
How can i get over my trust issues and having to need reassurance so much from my fiance after being raped by a family friend last december? and how can i get over my low self worth? i literally tear myself down all the time, even when he builds me up all the time. i get annoyed at myself for asking and questioning so much and i just want to stop and feel good about myself and be sure of myself again.
This is messing me up. How can I get my self worth back?
I think I am finally ready to move on from a guy, who said we were just friends, but still gives me hope and a reason to hang on. He treats me like his girlfriend when he's with me and shows me affection when he wants to He contacts me when he feels like it but otherwise leaves me be. Don't get me wrong, we have a great time together, have the same interests and sense of humour, are friends, and are very attracted to each other but i'm not getting what I know I deserve someone who spends time with me and wants to see me more than once a week, or maybe less. And also tells me how he feels.He texts calls but doesn't follow through with an invitation to hang out he waits for me to ask or beats around the bush. He is so vague and wishy washy and push pulling me. I thought i could handle going with the flow but I can't. When I'm with him, I can feel that he has feelings for me but he is not going about it in any normal way I'm so torn.I care about him and love his company but it's too hard. I want to disregard his text messages and " subtly" show that I am not open to these little actions. I don't owe him an explanation because he doesn't provide that for me. He just does what he wants. This is taking a toll on my mind. How do I do this? Do I not respond to his calls texts? Everytime I have avoided him before or told him not to contact me, he comes around. So this time, I don't want to say what i'm doing, I just want to do it. What do you think?
How do you realize that you have self worth?
Tonight, someone I barely even know, seemed to see right through me, explaining all the things I've apparently been in serious denial about. He talked about how I don't have anyone, have no self esteem when I should, how no one listens to me, how I expect no one to like me, etc. Hearing this from someone else made me start thinking that I might actually have some worth, or atleast he thinks so. How do you realize you have self worth? or how do you " grow" your self worth? if that makes sense...
Where does your self esteem and self worth come from?
i know we all want to change things about ourselves, physically and mentally. since no one is perfect. also, how satisfied can we all be, when we are so bombarded by look like this person, follow this trend, have this, and act like this. so...i know self worth comes from compliments, that boosts someone's self esteem, but i know there is more to it. so...where does your self esteem self worth come from?
How do you improve your self worth / esteem?
I feel so low. I have no energy, hardly eat anything apart from chocolate, sandwiches and crisps. My job is monotonous, low paid office work and we're treated like children. When I started I'd just graduated, was full of dreams and aspirations, the job was meant to be temporary had a gorgeous boyfriend and was thinking of travelling. Now I'm 30, single, starting to feel old, still renting and don't feel I'll ever get to use my arty degree. I'm finding it hard to maintain or make new friendships as I just want to be alone or bring them down. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety about 6 months ago and my doctor prescribed an SSRI. It felt like it was working initially but I've started to notice I've been feeling really down again. Does anyone have any ideas on how to improve self esteem ? please help. i want my life back, or a new better one would be great Thanks xThanks everyone All of your answers were great. They've been so helpful and I've taken advice from each one so i'm putting it to a vote as I can't decide which was best Thanks again, feeling better already x
Will it be possible for me to go to college with so much anxiety and low self worth?
continue education with panic and anxiety attacks
Does your job/career have a lot to do with your self worth?
I'm disabled and feeling pretty worthless today.
Body/mental self worth issues?
if you look in the mirror and can't see collar bones you don't feel good?I know its wrong, but If I don't look very thin when I look in the mirror I just hate it.
How do you get over your low self esteem and feelings of low self worth?
I'm 17 years old. Growing up, I was bullied everyday. Basically it was because I was known as 'the smart girl who never said anything'. was really dorky looking. I was a walking target for being picked on.I was even bullied physically. I had such low self esteem that I didn't even stand up for myself. There were times where I would come home from school and cry my eyes out and make excuses the next day so I wouldn't have to go to school. I may sound whiney to you but if you get bullied and tormented EVERY SINGLE DAY OF YOUR DAY, it HURTS and changes you It's not like that anymore. I was obviously affeted. I feel like I'm different from everyone aorund me. I don't even bother talking to people that are different from me because I think that they wouldn't want anything to do with me. I even feel the same way when it comes to dating. I don't even want to bother with guys because I think that no guy would ever want to love me. I have such low self confidence that I can't even look an attractive guy in the eye. I don't want to end up being the 40 year old virgin because of this.I get compliments from people saying that I am beautiful, gorgeous, hot, nice body, lovely blue eyes, etc. I am such a low self esteem coward that I can't even accept their compliments. I can't thank them because I don't feel that way about my self. I feel like a brat for not being able to say 'thanks'.HELP?
How do I improve my self-worth?
Growing up my father was really selfish and abusive. He played me and my brother off against each other, belittled my mother, nobody could have an opinion different to his, he screamed at people outside the home too service people, people who worked on the house...not to destroy my self esteem I have high self esteem, I think I'm smart, attractive etc.. and he often told me this...but my self worth.Despite the fact that he never even brought me a birthday present, never gave me a single piece of help nor advice in my life, he called me rude and spoilt.I got straight As at school yet he paid for my brother to go to college and not me. He also is a misogynist and the majority of problems he has are with women I'm female . He refused to pay for me to go.He said he refused to " help me get everything that I want" and constantly told me I was too pushy in my desire to study.When I struggled in my job he refused to give me any help nor advice.I often feel drowning in a lot of situations because whenever I have asked him for advice, he just ignored me. My mother has such low self esteem now as a consequence of living with him that she doesn't have her own opinions on anything so it is useless to ask her.As a consequence I believe I am a rude and spoilt person... despite the fact that most people tell me I am too polite and ridiculously nice. I put other peoples' needs before my own.My father never got me a card for my 21st birthday and yet I deeply believe I am spoilt and too lucky.I get taken advantage of by men because I believe I am hurting them when they are in fact hurting me.I esteem myself very highly.. I am happy with my appearance... but I pass up on good men and don't go after happiness goals, find it difficult to say no to people nor stand up for myself because my self WORTH is so low.I need to believe I am worthy of all in my life not after I have worked myself to the ground but just because I am myself. My father was unambitious, didn't make an effort to educate himself and believes he is worthy of everything just because he is himself. I worked very very hard and yet he still tells me it's not enough. Despite his low paying job, lack of outside interests... his key catch phrase with me is " that's not good enough" . So I never feel I have done enough.How do I improve self worth? rather than self esteem .
I'm feeling antisocial and really low self-worth. Anyone want to diagnose me, or help me feel better?
It's a pretty recent thing, actually. I guess I've always felt a bit less peppy than others. I like Elliott Smith and Sylvia Plath can you blame me? But I never had this much trouble with just having fun, and going out with friends. Lately, I feel like everyone is out to get me, or like nobody cares if I'm there or not. I don't feel comfortable though I used to be perfectly comfortable around friends that I've known for several years. I feel like I'm fat, and too ugly to be noticed. It may just be a confidence issue, but I recently turned 17. Why so late in my pubescent life?Life's a bitch. Kay.
I frequently alternate between feelings of high self-worth and self-disappointment?
OK, here's the scoop on me...I frequently alternate between feelings of high self worth and self disappointment. My need to do everything right perfect everything keeps me from finishing the things I set out to do. I'm a writer, but can never finish a story because of this. I go through days where I walk around with such confidence and I feel as if I can accomplish anything, but when I get home I hate how much I think I'm failing at life and feel as if I can't succeed in anything. I have many goal lists scattered around and almost none of them are completed because I'm afraid to commit to some. Example Career choices, books to read, stories to write, places to visit, movies to watch...etc. I hate accepting help when it comes to things like organizing, packing, household cleaning, ideas, etc. because they probably won't do it how I'd normally do it or how I would like it to be done. I have bad social anxiety around strangers and tend to come off as rude because I'm short with my words and end the conversation fast. I'm very nice, I just get nervous. I tend to go for jobs that have minimal interaction with people because of my social anxiety and since my mind blanks out when I'm trying to speak. I love talking to people and I want to talk to people, but I can't. I'm great at making eye contact though? I get depressed often, usually only when I'm alone. Not often does it happen when I'm around others. When I'm depressed I think of ways to harm myself without leaving any physical marks so people won't suspect anything. I used to cut, but not anymore because I'm ashamed of the scars and they're almost embarrassing. I harm myself though because it releases Endorphins and makes me feel alive for a small bit. It's like a reality smack of some sort and pumps a little adrenaline out. On that note, I am horrible with emotions. I guess you could say I'm " numb." It is very difficult for me to cry in the right situations. I tear up during sad movies, but when I'm alone and depressed and want to just cry my eyes out, I can't. I'm not an angry person at all and can't hold grudges, but I have a lot of pent up frustration and enjoy beating the shit out of punching bags, haha. With relationships, I have trouble communicating. I can't express my feelings very well, so if something's bugging me, it normally doesn't get said unless my partner brings it up somehow. My friends say I'm extremely weird and always " out there," but they like it because they think it's cute. I'm very free spirited when I'm around people I'm comfortable with and love to laugh. I day dream a LOT about all the different lives I could be leading. I have one that wants to go clubbing and get fucked up and just live off drugs bad, I know , one that's ready to settle down and start a family, one that wants to travel and experience different cultures, one who lurks around in the night looking for bad people muggers rapists murderers to teach a lesson to by fighting torturing them odd, I know , and one that just wants to learn and learn and learn about anything and everything and become extremely smart. When trying to say something to people, my mind moves too fast for my tongue and I tend to just ramble nonsense. That's why I love texting IMing messaging...since I can read what I'm going to say. I hate it, but I'm thankful for it, haha. I have a horrible time staying focussed and concentrating on certain things for a long time even if it's something I'm enjoying because my mind trails off into another world. I was tested for ADD ADHD though and they said I had an above average attention span. ANYWAYS, sorry this is so long and jumps from situation to situation so abruptly...if I had know it was going to be this long I probably wouldn't have typed it in the first place, hah. I just want to ask for your feedback, any advice on how to deal with these problems, or if you just want to say something. Thank you again, it's much appreciated. Also, if I wanted to get tested for a personality disorder, just to see. Where would I go?
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