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How can I give myself self worth?
I just feel that nobody around me cares about me and it's making meCare less about myself cos if no one loves me then maybe I AM unlovable and if I'm unlovable then what's the point?
How do you cure a girl of no self worth?
What do you do when every day a girl is told of all the things she does wrong and ends up believing she isn't worth anything? How can something like that be fixed? And beyond just talking to a councilor, how can she look in the mirror and see that she isn't ugly, that she's good enough for someone?
I depend on my boyfriend for my own happiness and self worth, how can I break this depressing habit? :(?
Even I can tell i'm acting like I have a screw loose. If he doesn't tell me he loves me more than once, or if he seems a bit more distracted than usual in my head i've already told myself he's stopped caring and he's going to leave me. If he doesn't text me my whole day is completely ruined and I can't focus or get anything done, and i'm jsut constantly on the verge or tears. Every time he speaks to me online I think he's about to leave me. I had councelling for anxiety problems a few years ago and i'm wondering if I should again... He left me a month into our relationship claiming he didn't like me in that way but then realised we simply didn't know each other well enough. Since then we got back together. However, he cheated on me at a party while drunk and after dropping this bombshell on me he left me again claiming I can do better. A week later after lots of talking through I took him back. In my head, both these times serve to prove what I already tell myself, that i'm not good enough for him, too boring, too ugly and he's never going to love me. When he says he does I don't believe him and it makes me tear up because he's everything to me. Last night I told him about my anxiety and that I used to self harm. He said he's glad I told him because he can understand me better, and that the things that hurt me before won't happen again because he loves me. I stayed at his house last night and when we were laying there I was just so happy I could have died. Now i'm back home the analysing starts. Tiny things he says without thinking haunt me for days and make me know in my mind he doesn't love me. Another thing is that i've been told he has a personality disorder. He smokes weed and is often really different one day to the next. In person he'll kiss me, hold me, tell me he loves me and that I make him so happy and that he'll talk to me later. Then on facebook or by text he'll seem really cold and i'l think everything he's said to me in person is a lie. I just feel like i'm going insane, my heart is constantly feeling like its breaking and its tearing me up. Please help me, what can I do to sort myself out?
How can I improve my self worth?
High school boy, feel like I have to popular, funny, and cool to be worth somthing
My happiness and self worth go hand in hand with my weight?
All my life i have been a yoyo at my thinnest i was 115lbs and at my biggest 213lbs...and no matter how good my life is in every other aspect if im heavy i feel like a failure. I have just brought a beautiful new house, have an adorable daughter, a gorgeous partner, fantastic family around me and a good job but i cant help but feel like a totally worthless human being because i cant even keep control of my weight are there other people that feel this way or is there something wrong with me??
How can I improve my confidence and self worth?
My boyfriend and I have the kind of relationship where we joke around with eachother a lot and make fun of eachother and i love it but he can be kind of insensitive at times with the jokes and i worry that if I'm not perfect that he will treat me the way my dad treats my overweight mother. and also I'm in theatre and im quirky and im a kluts and so I'm the butt of a lot of jokes for all of my friends and even my theatre teacher and I really don't mind that much i dish it out too when i can think of a comeback that is, but after 3 years I feel like I'm no good at anything and every time my bf and i fight i have knots in my stomache and he doesn't really care. he says mean stuff to me and i just get sad. I say mean stuff to him and I'm afraid he's going to break up with me. I just don't want to be a doormat and I figure it stems from not having even an ounce of confidence. Any advice?
Mom's too high expectations affecting my self worth?
I've come to realize that my mom has unnaturally high expectations. Not just out of me, but out of everybody. As children, we went through twenty or more babysitters because my mom thought they were incompetent. They didn't clean correctly or put the right ingredients in food, you name it. She's a doctor, so she thinks because she has a high education that she has more self worth. That's what I'm assuming.Now, at 16, I'm seeing a therapist because I have serious self esteem issues and I feel worthless. Reflecting on the matter, part of the reason I have such low self esteem is because I am never satisfied with myself and often feel helpless. Is this related to my mother's expectations? I also realized that I'm a people pleaser and I am extremely sensitive.. Am I trying and failing to please my mother, and am I taking it personal that she wants so much from me?And yes, it's normal for parents to want the best for their children, but my mom puts so much pressure on me sometimes and says things that she assumes are encouraging like " What are we going to get on the test tomorrow? A? No. A plus " And sometimes she has completely irrelevant expectationss, like once she asked me to wake her up at a certain time, then she complained that I woke her up " too suddenly" and to try again in thirty minutes. ?? My parents are divorced, and I've been deeply considering moving in with my dad because I'm seriously concerned about going insane with my mom I don't know if I can handle two more years with her.So my questions are 1. Should I continue living with my mom?2. Are her expectations high?3. If so, could it relate to my personal issues?Thank you in advance and I know this was long, I'm so sorry
Low self worth getting in the way of 'life'... please help.?
i feel so horrible about myself 98 % of the time and when I do feel good, I bring myself down... I don't allow myself to be happy..I constantly verbally abuse myself all the time... I've probably called myself stupid more than 20 times today...My low self esteem worth image is getting in the way of everything.. I find it very hard to get on the train in the morning to go to school especially during rush hour... This morning there was this lady on the train.. she looked european or something.. She gave me this dirty look, a look that said.." eww you're so ugly" .. I know you guys might think i'm seeing things but she really did look at me like this...Sometimes i wish to disappear or die but I don't really want to die...I have no friends, I have a boyfriend.. he's so smart and such a great guy.. sometimes I really feel like he deserves better than me.. I'm used up already..I think the way I feel about myself is causing me to seek out abusive relationships... I wish I could find a man that will save me, keep me in the house so i don't have to deal with bitches like today and all the other judge mental MF's out there, at least I know i'll be good at that being a wife mom homemaker etc... I think i'l be really good at thatI tried seeking help from a psychologist today but they are not covered by OHIP.. on top of tuition and life.. I do not have extra money...It's getting to th epoint where only feel 'safe' at home.. I avoid going out if I don't have too... I don't even know how to make and keep friends anymore... In lectures I sit by myself.. I see all the other students have already formed groups and I don't talk to anyone I feel like posting an ad for one of those mail order brides and just leaving this life.... But i think of my bf... I really like him... he's my 1st bf, the first guy to claim me as his girl.. sorta..and I really want things to work with him.. I haven't really talked to him about these feelings too much because I do not want to sound like a broken record and push him away with my baggage so I suffer in silence... How can I overcome feeling so low of myself..
Is it possible to be too self-confident and have too much self-worth?
Because I used to give up everything for people. Like, fully go out of my way for someone. If they did something that was bad to me because they didn't get what they wanted, I'd freak out and do whatever they wanted because I felt bad for not giving them what they wanted.I did that for everyone. About everything. I'd totally blame myself for their mistakes, and put them first.But lately, I've been putting myself first. If someone insults me, I tell them that I'm better than whatever they've called and me and told them to f ck off. I've stood up for myself in every situation.But is it getting too far, when I remove people because I don't like talking to them? Because I've started doing that. I was nice to them and didn't let them know that's why I was doing it but I just feel that I'm not going to try because I don't get along with them.I mean, if someone insults you or teases you, is it right to just fight back as hard as they did and put yourself before them?I know the answer sounds like an obvious " yes its okay" , but I don't know. I just feel like it isn't.
I'm feeling antisocial and really low self-worth. Anyone want to diagnose me, or help me feel better?
It's a pretty recent thing, actually. I guess I've always felt a bit less peppy than others. I like Elliott Smith and Sylvia Plath can you blame me? But I never had this much trouble with just having fun, and going out with friends. Lately, I feel like everyone is out to get me, or like nobody cares if I'm there or not. I don't feel comfortable though I used to be perfectly comfortable around friends that I've known for several years. I feel like I'm fat, and too ugly to be noticed. It may just be a confidence issue, but I recently turned 17. Why so late in my pubescent life?Life's a bitch. Kay.
I frequently alternate between feelings of high self-worth and self-disappointment?
OK, here's the scoop on me...I frequently alternate between feelings of high self worth and self disappointment. My need to do everything right perfect everything keeps me from finishing the things I set out to do. I'm a writer, but can never finish a story because of this. I go through days where I walk around with such confidence and I feel as if I can accomplish anything, but when I get home I hate how much I think I'm failing at life and feel as if I can't succeed in anything. I have many goal lists scattered around and almost none of them are completed because I'm afraid to commit to some. Example Career choices, books to read, stories to write, places to visit, movies to watch...etc. I hate accepting help when it comes to things like organizing, packing, household cleaning, ideas, etc. because they probably won't do it how I'd normally do it or how I would like it to be done. I have bad social anxiety around strangers and tend to come off as rude because I'm short with my words and end the conversation fast. I'm very nice, I just get nervous. I tend to go for jobs that have minimal interaction with people because of my social anxiety and since my mind blanks out when I'm trying to speak. I love talking to people and I want to talk to people, but I can't. I'm great at making eye contact though? I get depressed often, usually only when I'm alone. Not often does it happen when I'm around others. When I'm depressed I think of ways to harm myself without leaving any physical marks so people won't suspect anything. I used to cut, but not anymore because I'm ashamed of the scars and they're almost embarrassing. I harm myself though because it releases Endorphins and makes me feel alive for a small bit. It's like a reality smack of some sort and pumps a little adrenaline out. On that note, I am horrible with emotions. I guess you could say I'm " numb." It is very difficult for me to cry in the right situations. I tear up during sad movies, but when I'm alone and depressed and want to just cry my eyes out, I can't. I'm not an angry person at all and can't hold grudges, but I have a lot of pent up frustration and enjoy beating the shit out of punching bags, haha. With relationships, I have trouble communicating. I can't express my feelings very well, so if something's bugging me, it normally doesn't get said unless my partner brings it up somehow. My friends say I'm extremely weird and always " out there," but they like it because they think it's cute. I'm very free spirited when I'm around people I'm comfortable with and love to laugh. I day dream a LOT about all the different lives I could be leading. I have one that wants to go clubbing and get fucked up and just live off drugs bad, I know , one that's ready to settle down and start a family, one that wants to travel and experience different cultures, one who lurks around in the night looking for bad people muggers rapists murderers to teach a lesson to by fighting torturing them odd, I know , and one that just wants to learn and learn and learn about anything and everything and become extremely smart. When trying to say something to people, my mind moves too fast for my tongue and I tend to just ramble nonsense. That's why I love texting IMing messaging...since I can read what I'm going to say. I hate it, but I'm thankful for it, haha. I have a horrible time staying focussed and concentrating on certain things for a long time even if it's something I'm enjoying because my mind trails off into another world. I was tested for ADD ADHD though and they said I had an above average attention span. ANYWAYS, sorry this is so long and jumps from situation to situation so abruptly...if I had know it was going to be this long I probably wouldn't have typed it in the first place, hah. I just want to ask for your feedback, any advice on how to deal with these problems, or if you just want to say something. Thank you again, it's much appreciated. Also, if I wanted to get tested for a personality disorder, just to see. Where would I go?
How do I help my wife develop self-worth?
My wife lost her job at the beginning of the year and we have had to move in with relatives to pay off ensuing bills. She has always defined herself by her " contribution to society" which is what she considers having a job. She doesn't drive and only gets out by walking there is nowhere she can really walk to and when friends pick her up or I drop her somewhere on my way to work. She has hobbies, but they don't keep her self esteem high enough to keep her happy. I have tried working on defining herself differently or developing other skills and trying new activities, but she still gets upset very easily. I have read a lot on how to develop it for oneself but I can't find anything on how to help her into a happier mindset, can anyone give me some guidance on this?In response to the first response and thank you for responding She doesn't drive because she is scared of cars and I have offered to help many times in whatever way possible. As far as neighbors, many of the houses around us right now are for sale and those that aren't do not have children. As far as yard work and cleaning, she likes to clean but is so mopey right now that she doesn't even do the parts of it that she enjoys and she by no means has a green thumb she has potted plants and doesn't even water them and she has pets, but doesn't feed them
Work Ethic & Self Worth?
Hello All. I have found my self to be very worried about what people think of me, and if they like me or not. If I'm with someone that I think doesn't like me, I'm just quite and don't talk. I also feel like criticism is directed as a person not liking me, even though I'm sure it not. For instance at work, I get criticized, I immediately think they don't like me anymore, and am very quite. I almost feel as if I need to punish myself for doing something wrong by isolating myself from everyone else. About 4 months ago I noticed that my motivation and work ethics were falling at work. I have always thought of myself as a hard worker, and what I think of as my one good quality. Now I feel as it has shot down, and I tread going to work everyday, which in the past I used to love to go to work weird right? lol . I am making more and more mistakes, thus more criticism, thus more isolation and less confidence. Being that work ethic is the thing I felt I did best, and it is now nonexistent, I feel a loss of self worth. I hate working now because I'm afraid I will make a mistake. I try and sit in the background as much as possible. Even conversations with my co workers now feel awkward because I'm always thinking if they actually like me, and I don't wanna say something that would make them not like me. Even at home, theres thing I know I gotta get done, but I choose not to do them because I feel so lazy. I don't ever remember being like this, and just seemed to come out of no where. I have had trouble going to sleep because all I can think about is all the mistakes I made that day. Even things that happened months, or even years ago, I think about. I worthless. I don't have any history of abuse and have been searching the internet for help. If anyone can help I would appreciate a lot. ThanksA Guy Thats a good idea. And it made me think, I work nights, sleep during the day, maybe I don't get enough light?Miss Love I will have to try that. I like the idea, and I think it might help me get done some of the things I have been wanting to at home.
Anybody feel one's self-worth = social skill level?
I have suspected mild aspergers. I feel I'm only worth as much as my social skills. They are still subpar relative to most fellow 27 yr olds therefore I'm subpar. Anybody else relate to this?
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