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Why do I have such a bad self image?
I'd just like to start off saying that I'm not looking for attention here. I am wondering if this is a serious issue. Every day, about every two hours, I think about my body. I am 20 years old, 5'4 and 115 lbs. I hate my stomach, I feel like I look like I'm pregnant. My boyfriend and best friend tell me I'm not fat, but my boyfriend has said that I am not skinny... I'm just chubby which I know he didn't mean it that way, but it has been bothering me ever since. I have been like this for the past 3 years. I am constantly thinking about not eating, and when I do over eat I feel really guilty. Its eating away at me and I hate it. I don't know if this is normal and I don't have anything to worry about but it's just really annoying because I think about it so much. I just want to be 100 lbs. I would never tell anyone that I think about this, no one knows that I have such a negative attitude towards myself, I just keep it to myself. I often consider not eating, or just eating really small portions, but I've heard that people that do that end up just being heavier than what they are. I don't want to throw up because I hate throwing up. I constantly compare myself to girls in magazines, women on tv, victoria secret models. I just want their bodies. I work out 4 times a week and I'm just not seeing a difference. What should I do?
Suddenly struggling with self image, am I fat?
I'm a 19 year old female and I weigh 78kg. I'm roughly 170cm tall, which puts my BMI at around 27 which is overweight.I started struggling with my self image and depression when I was 13 and went through an eating disorder which left my BMI at around 17 and underweight. I started gaining weight when I was about 15 when I found a great group of friends who I was comfortable to eat around I know it sounds silly but I could never bring myself to eat in front of people but still struggled with depression. When I was 16 my depression cause an opposite effect and I discovered comfort eating which landed me at about 85kg and feeling relatively horrible.Anyway. From 18 onwards I found myself in a really good place in my life. I'm about to start a career which I thoroughly enjoy, I have an amazing partner, my family like is okay, I adore my friends, I can look at myself without constantly pointing out flaws or chubby areas and I'm just really happy at the moment. I wouldn't classify myself as an unhealthy person, I go to the gym when I can find the time and I have a nicely balanced diet. Last weekend myself and a group of friends went out for a night in the city which made me question whether or not I should be happy with my image at the moment. While sitting down and observing all I could do is compare myself to the beautiful, thin people around me and think of how I came up short. My self consciousness escalated later on that night when a group of men referred to our group as a " bunch of beached whales" . I can appreciate drunken humor while I'm in the right state of mind but this compared with a growing sense of insecurity and a BMI telling me I'm overweight left me feeling pretty crappy and in a bit of a dilemma. For the first time since I can ever really remember I'm truly happy with my life and all things in it, including my body. But I suddenly feel conflicted with feeling good about myself and my life but apparently looking like a whale to others and suffering from their judgments. I'm not sure what to do. Please share your thoughts?
Detered self image and weight obsessed?
I have always been plump and obsessed with my body and my greatest weight loss was when I went to college this year. I reached a weight of 52 kg fluctuated upto 55 kg with a BMI of 21 and my family were scared and shocked when they saw me and convinced me to stop obsessing about food and start eat normally as my blood test reults showed low protein . I was happy with my body and decided to eat normally upto 1800 calories aday and now I am back in college for almost a week without a scale but with a measuring tape. The measuring tape shows that my waist increased 1.5 inch and I am going through the same phase of hating my body as before, I thought I got over this obsession but I cant control it and it is haunting me and I know that I will start restricting myself from eating and will eventually end with a low protein as I did in the first term, how can I get over this and start accepting my body the way it is?
If you have a negative self image (think you're ugly) will that affect you?
Socially? Confidence wise? Can that be the reason someone can't make friends and socialize because they're constantly thinking about how ugly and freakish they look compared to everyone else?
Do most or all overweight people have self image issues?
What can i do to enhance my self image, gain confidence, and have a higher self esteem...?
Is it bad to hate yourself? Because i do, after years of no motivation, constant put downs, and social awkwardness, i have finally just given up on myself. I have clinical social anxiety, so whenever im surrounded by large groups of people even small groups of people all i can think of is how to get out of the situation. Its gotten to the point where i hate to even leave my house. And it doesn't help that i DO NOT HAVE FRIENDS. Because i can't talk to people, i'm such a different person in public than i am when in a comfortable situation. I avoid conversation.. It's effecting my grades and school work now too.. Everyday i sit in class, all i can think about is i have to get out of here somehow not on the basis of because its boring, but because i feel like im in danger i hate being around people.. So i don't really have friends, and the friends i do have blow me off.. I haven't had a girlfriend yet in high school, which is sad. Because i can't talk to girls in person, even though i could get a girlfriend i just keep telling myself what if you screw up, what if she doesn't actually like you, what if its a joke, and its not to farfech when you live life growing up constantly getting called gay by your own family. Or how about starting High school at 4'6 60 pounds, it just ruined me, and i don't know what to do... I'm starting college next year, and im only 5'4. I look maybe 13 years old.. And its embarrassing, and i mean, i hate myself. Everyday i look in the mirror i am disgusted, i can find nothing. My insecurities are through the roof, even when i play call of duty, i use a Voice Changer to not risk someone making fun of my voice... All this shit is holding back my talents, and i can't help it. Someone please encourage me... Depressions a bitch, my life is a bitch, and as desperate as going to yahoo answers for help is, i don't know who else to ask... I seriously have NO encouragement to do anything, and when i do something good it goes unnoticed. Its like if i wasn't here today it wouldn't matter... I don't know, sorry for having whoever is reading this read my depressive gay whining...
Poor self image is getting me depressed?
I'm trying to look the best i can, but to be honest i somehow feel like i don't deserve earings or necklaces like some girls because im not pretty enough, an that i'll never get good friends, or married because of the way i look.say something to make me feel better somehow?
Why is living with someone who has a self image problem so hard? What should I do?
My wife has a problem with self image. It is so hard to deal with almost all the time. She avoids simple tasks. Has a horrible time trying to have fun. She sets herself up for failure. One simple example. My neighbor a woman came over today. We both new she was coming over we talked about it the day before. I was was out in the back far away working, but could here her saying " hey Bob and Kim are you home. I'm here hey you guys around?" ........ I was sure my wife who was just inside could here here to. But later I find out when my wife came back to see me that she had not gone out to see our neighbor. I was expecting that they would have got together and came back to see me. But I was wrong. My wife didn't go out and talk with her. She hid in the house and avoided her. This stuff makes things so hard on me. I feel like I have to do everything. She won't answer phone calls, she won't do much of anything espicaly if I don't try and make her. And even then it can turn into an argument or she just won't do it. She will turn it around and act like I did something wrong. What should I do. I feel like I could be happier with out this problem in my life. But I love my wife and wish it could work. We have been together for 10 years and married for 5 years. HELP it's sooooooo hard. We have talked about this and it doesn't seem to help much....We met at a birthday party when we were much younger. She is 41 now and I am 35.Someone I knew brought her along to the b day party when we met. We have been together since then. With a few exceptions when we had some rocky times. There was a couple times we each saw other people but ended up back together shortly after. We both used to party more and kinda hang in that type of scene. Now she doesn't want to hang out with almost anyone. She has 1 friend she doesn't even do stuff with. She does not have one friend that she hangs out with on a regular basis. She might do something with someone else 5 to 10 times a year on her own. Probally not that much. I am the only one who gets her to do anything with my friends, but every time I try to get her to she doesn't want to. She complains if I ask her to do something with friends and me. If I want someone to come over she really doesn't want it to happen. But if I do it anyway she usually ends up having fun. she starts to feel more comfort
Feel so awkward walking down the street? social anxiety and self-image issues?
My social anxiety is like bi polar. it constantly changes, some days lm actually fine and some days lm a complete wreck. But for most the part l think l will always be uncomfortable down a street with people. My mom says " dont worry no one is paying attention you, people are too busy thinking about themselves" well unfortunately its not true for me. Because some people do actually pay attention to me in the street l mean some dont acknowledge me thankfully but there will always be some jack ss staring straight at my face until they pass me, some actually turn their heads all around and look at me and gossip me. Some have called me ugly on the streets and from their cars. l had a very traumatic experience in public because of my appearance. although l got better looking so lm not treated as harshly or call as many names before but people still stare and l know its because lm hideous. When lm walking down and there is a person coming my way l start to have an anxiety attack especially if it is a boy my age oh man l hope that never happens that would be so awkward l usually try and look at other things because l never look a person straight in the eye in public, l always constantly move eyes to the floor, to the sides, my shoes, and the person is just looking at me weird.lm always afraid someone is going to call me ugly in public, because it happened so many times, l cringe when l see groups of people or cars passing by with their windows. Because of what happened l always live in fear of getting humiliated. l hate the public l wish l was homebound and stay in my room forever. people disgust me. l tried curing this for years nothing works. lm just an awkward and not a people person. What should l do? its so hard going to school my attendance is awful because l feel too hideous to go.many cruel people around, should l just move to a less populated area in the future when l am older? lm a 16yr old girl btw
Struggling with my self-image. Advice?
I already asked a question similar to this but I left out some details. I'm a 16 y o girl, 5' 2" , and about 100 pounds. I'm struggling with mild anorexia or something. I don't even know. I only eat about 500 calories a day. I want to be thin like those gorgeous models the ones with really thin legs and flat stomachs. When I do eat, I don't feel well and I try natural laxatives and even make myself throw up to get rid of the food. This is taking a huge toll on me. I'm already depressed to begin with and this is adding onto it. Please give me some advice.
What does distorted self-image mean at the Borderline Personality Disorder symptoms?
How can a self image be distorted?
How can I be more confident about my self-image?
I'm very very shy and akward. I have this super weird flip flop personality that allows me to be comfortable in some situations and excessively awkward in others. I think it has something to do with the vibes that i get from people. i make really bad first impressions because of my low self esteem and shyness. I am not at all comfortable with the way i look, and i really hate my voice. It's very quiet and low and people ask me to repeat what i just said very often because they can't hear what i'm saying. i am SO uncomfortable with my voice that i absolutely hate talking i'll do anything to avoid it i don't want to look back on my life and regret everything. i'm in high school, i want to be like everyone else i want a social life more friends i don't want to have to worry about when i'm going to have to talk in front of people or worry about asking someone a question in fear that they might laugh at me. is there any way i can make my voice louder, clearer, and higher pitched?how can i raise my self esteem?how can i become more relaxed and open with people?thank you so much you're a life saver
How can I build a solid self-image?
I have a mild case of schizophrenia and I feel like I could overcome most of the negative symptoms of schizophrenia if I had a solid self image. I currently have this perception of myself as being bland and extremely anxious, even though I'm really neither of these things. Thus, when I imagine myself in different scenarios, I see this boring, anxious person and it makes me get depressed. I'm waiting to see my therapist, my appt's next week, so I was hoping you could give me some tips for creating a solid self image. Thanks Also, how can I maintain the image once I build it?
My mom is contributing to my self-image problems... Help!!?
I've always been kind of a chubby kid, but I've never been extremely overweight. I've never been confident with my body, but I've also never really been encouraged to love myself the way I am. My mom always makes comments like " That shirt makes you look fat." " Your clothes would fit better if you lost some weight." She even felt the need to tell me that I'd " never get into college looking like that." Is there some way to get her to stop? Tried to ignore her, but it doesn't work. I've tried to talk to her, but all she does is try to justify her point, making me feel worse. I really want to try to feel comfortable with my body before college, so does anyone have any advice on how to handle this situation?
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