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Question: I need some advice ,how can i improve my self confidence and self esteem .....?

(Posted by: dAmIAnOO on 2009-03-14 23:50:21)

Im kinda depressed ive been having like a black cloud over my head for the past few months or years i dropped out of HS in 10 th grade cause i was made fan of cause of my weight then i broke my neck and had to have surgery to repair it and then rehabilitation then i broke my left heel ( im prone to bone breaks) i lose 75 pounds in a year and a half and i felt great but the friend that ive knows in HS wont even talk to me right now i feel really lonely and sad i dont have anyone ot talk to beside one person she is like my rock but we live in different states so we dont see each other very often i did everytihng by the book and it seems like its not good enough i do blame my parents for this as they are really controling as i siad i dont have any friend cause of them i lost a large amount of weight and i sitll dont feel good about it or maybe its them that try to make me seems like a crazy person i dont have the confidence to go out and get some new stuff and meet new people i realized that i was bisexua lafter 4 years of having mixed feeling about my sexuality and im happy that thats one problem less i dont go to school im staring prep classes for the GED somewhere in april probably after easter maybe i will meet some new folks there im not open about my sexuality cause i know that my parents and relative wont accept it i do have a passion for music , art and animals so when ever i feel stressed out i take a pen or pencil and i write my own songs or draw something i started volouteery( i dont know how to spell it) work at animal hospital and there is one of my "past " friend working there too so we kinda cleared out something and we are trying ot repair our relationship im turning 18 next month and if im going to find a job somewhere and save some money i will definetly move out from my parents as they are driving me crazy but i dont know if im gonna find anytihng in this times i live in Queens NYC

Posted by: Chelsea on 2009-03-15, 00:05:13

I had a rather similar experience in high school. I was made fun of horribly and.. quite literally, got the crap kicked out of me multiple times. I started making new friends out of high school so the ones I'd had all my life didn't talk to me as much and assumed I was getting into hardcore drugs and thought I was completely indulged in the party scene. They were wrong but they didn't listen to me. I lost every single one of them. I'm five foot tall and at one point in school weighed 235 pounds. I was a pretty big teenager. I had horrible depression issues that resulted in a lot of self mutilation and mental self abuse. I've decided that from years of dealing with that kind of crap from other people I'd started to believe it and live it. It took a while for me to discover myself and who I was without all of that, but once I did I found my self confidence as well. I still have my days where the world is crap and I hate everything about myself but those days seem to be getting fewer and fewer as time goes by. It may sound pretty lame, especially at your age, but try putting on your favorite lipstick or lip gloss, even chapstick, whatever it is and kissing your mirror. Everyday while you're getting ready to do your daily tasks, look at it and remind yourself that no matter what anybody thinks, you are a beautiful person. If other people can't see it, that's their problem. Their the ones missing out on you. I went through my sexuality crisis as well. I think most people have that issue while growing up but I realized one day that I'm not gay, straight, bi.. any of that. I just love people for who they are no matter what gender or race... none of it matters. Love people for who they are and they will love you just the same. There are people who love you for who you are and those are the ones to focus on. Just try and make sure one of those people is you.

Posted by: Sand on 2009-03-15, 00:00:14

You know we have not been perfected, but we can be perfected because we can do a lot of things to improve ourselfs, our selfconfident, selfesteem. yes, you can do it. stop complaining.

Posted by: lito_beth_0129 on 2009-03-15, 00:11:25

Oh, that's so sad. Well, you can.. let's see... You should never give up first of all, always walk with your head up high. Don't let people think they can mess with you. There's nothing you can do. Everything happens for a reason. All you can do is just hope everything will be fine in the end. Try to do something that makes you happy. Don't think about the past, think of the future. Think of all the good things that could happen, that's why it's called the present. ;)

Posted by: kwest on 2009-03-15, 01:48:42

Value yourself more. Give yourself credit. Value you instead of envying other people. You are worth it!