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Question: How do i overcome extremely low self confidence and self esteem?

(Posted by: Andrew on 2007-01-21 16:21:57)

Well for aslong as i can remember iv always been pretty shy but as the years went on its got so bad that its ruining my life. basically i find it very hard to chat to people i havnt known for awhile even over text like msn etc. when i see someone who is about to walk past me on the street i get so nervous that i dont know where to look, when someone tries talking to me i usually have no idea what to say and just end up giving short answers and looking uncomfortable for the rest of the time. iv heard people say hypnosis might be something to try but im unsure about it (if any Practitioners can give me there opinion on it id be very grateful). any help would be greatly appreciated.

Posted by: true blue on 2007-01-21, 16:28:51

You can overcome low self confidence by experiencing success. It is also something that comes with time. The older you get the more you realize that you're just as good, if not better than everybody else. Don't get me wrong. You don't want to turn into a snob. But once you set some goals in life, achieve them on your own, and gain experience and insight, you will learn to appreciate yourself more. You also need to relax and try to understand that you are unique. There is nobody else like you. You are a one-of-a-kind work of art. Be yourself, be true to yourself, be kind, and try to love others. You will be just fine.

Posted by: douhavkukudarosis on 2007-01-21, 16:25:52

Look in the mirror alot. I used to be like you. Then i started looking in the mirror alot and noticing the upsides of me and started enjoying what i look like and plus you can't really change yourself that much your stuck with what you got and you should be proud to be who you are and your that way for a reason.

Posted by: paul y on 2007-01-21, 16:29:57

Your life will turn around when you put God in as being number one. Go to a Christian Church (you may have to go to several to find the one you are happy with) to put it simple God makes all things possible. Have faith you are not alone

Posted by: healthiacynthia on 2007-01-21, 16:30:16

Wow, i have the perfect technique for you to learn and practice.... many hypnotists have integrated it into their practices, so effective is it. It's called Emotional Freedom Technique and the understanding behind it is "The cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body's energy system. " EFT is surprisingly easy to learn and to apply. You can download the free Get Started Package at tinyurl.com/ yh5zhu, or if you want to dive in right away by purchasing the inexpensive instructional DVDs click here > >tinyurl.com/ ycwle8 All the best!

Posted by: lonely_mike21 on 2007-01-21, 16:30:50

It might not be shyness, have you looked into to see if you have an anxiety dissorder

Posted by: kellie_new_mom25 on 2007-01-21, 16:31:39

You know, it sounds like you have more than self-esteem issues. You might want to go get checked out to see if you have anxiety issues. Apart from that, what is it about yourself that you wouldnt like who you are if you were someone else? I am sure that you are beautiful, smart, funny person that just needs a nudge to get out of her shell. Best of luck honey, and I really hope that you can overcome this.

Posted by: ecyla744 on 2007-01-21, 16:32:06

There is no shame in seeing a counsellor its wat i did they can give u tecnics to use in situations to help u over come your fears and stop being shy and they work in record time it worked for me. they will also help u 2 identify why u are shy. ppl forget u don't have to have Major emotional issues like depression to get a Little help

Posted by: Ethan J on 2007-01-21, 16:32:09

Well i dont think any kind of medicine or hypnosis shit is gonna help much nor is it the way to go... you need to do it on your own you need to look at yourself and say i am who i am and noone can change me just look at yourself and appreciate the way you look just think about some injured or hurt people that have been badely damaged and now they look terrible just think to yourself that you are lucky to look the way you do and you are lucky to be who you are goodluck

Posted by: a real deal on 2007-01-21, 16:33:37

Look like a bum and go around walking around a mall like you're everything... and don't care what anyone thinks about you. if you can do that, you have balls and you prolly get used to not caring what anyone thinks about you.

Posted by: kelstar on 2007-01-21, 16:36:35

Hi! try this......imagine a situation that makes u feel uncomfortable like a person walking past you in the street. Create in your mind the situation running smoothly. Picture the other person smiling at you and saying hello. Then picture yourself responding with hello back. Sounds simple? Well what i mean is that if you prepare yourself with this technique in every situation that you find uncomfortable you will develop confidence. When you develop confidence you will learn to trust yourself to be able to handle any situation that you come across. In turn your self esteem will improve and it will all come naturally. Remember to keep the images positive and trust in yourself. You already have the skills, you just need to develop them. Preparation is the key.

Posted by: Chris H on 2007-01-21, 16:40:19

I have the exact same problem i am a shy person an have a hard time trying to talk to people i have not known my whole life. but i realised that life is short an oppertunities are few so the best thing to do is to take each oppertunity and make the most of it, i think it stems froma lack of self confidence and self esteeme so try doing something to help raise the levels of either and youll see it will help you a great deal for yourself and socialy. i find it hard to use things liek MSN but it seems to be because you do not see the person face to face and you cant see there reactions properly plus in situations like that it feels like your forced to talk and you have no choice

Posted by: billy s on 2007-01-25, 09:47:39

You sound alot like how I ues to be.I found out I suffer anxiety attacks.My doctor has me on an anti-anxiety medicine called clonazepam.It's like valium.I also see a therapist every 2 weeks and I have got alot better.I still get shy and stuff but nowhere like I use to.I suggest you see your doctor and explain to him how you have been feeling and see what he says.Good luck.Oh also I find working out helps me alot also.