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Question: How do you overcome low self-esteem?

(Posted by: Alexandra on 2010-03-16 18:15:59)

Posted by: Ashley. on 2010-03-16, 18:46:30

The answer lies within yourself. Be patient, it may take awhile to gain a healthy self esteem. Though it could take no time, as well! Just believe in yourself. Know that YOU are the only one truly in control of your life, and your thoughts. And you are a beautiful person with a unique life, no matter what. Try to look in the mirror and focus on things you like about yourself everyday, even a few times a day if it helps. You'll find the more positive things you notice, the more positive things you think and feel. If you're not happy with your life, try to change some of the circumstances. Try to find the things that make you happy, and do them often. Take care of yourself, and everything else will follow. Good luck! :)

Posted by: pink ♥ on 2010-03-16, 18:20:24

Everyone in this world has imperfections if not on the outside, prob worst (on the inside). Don't think about all the imperfections that puts together ur low self-esteem but think about all the good things u have to offer. 1.Make a list 2.Try a Makeover (trust me it helps) 3.Practice what ur good @. & & this will help u see the great person that u are!!

Posted by: bryan_c9 on 2010-03-16, 18:23:38

Low self-esteem might be better suited for someone who cares greatly about everything and everyone else. Thus, a fracture of self, therefore the low esteem of self. Another idea on the subject is chemicals, mediation, to help with the mental perception as it is. Building on both environment and chemicals would be really getting into something, looking for interest and not only finding it but perfecting it, rising above general Q and inabling self to realize accomplishments of a higher nature. The professional answer is to seek psychological help, learn mechanics of these devices, schema, learn functions, break down, rebuild, redesign, change environment, help by taking medication, change company and learn over time tools like REBT and so forth.

Posted by: Dave on 2010-03-16, 18:26:23

You probably don't want to hear it but it is true, exercise! Do it on a daily basis and take your anger on your workout whatever you'll be doing. You'll get in great shape, and you'll feel more confident of yourself.

Posted by: Aleksandr on 2010-03-16, 18:27:35

You need to work on it daily. Check out depressiondodging.com and go to the "self esteem " section. That program takes 15-20 minutes a day and will boost your self esteem if you stick to it.

Posted by: Sheila on 2010-03-16, 18:30:33

It is very difficult to overcome low self-esteem on your own. First, you have probably internalized your mother, father, or other family member's verbal abuse, and now these people don't have to verbally abuse you anymore, because you are telling yourself you are stupid, ugly, etc., in your mind. You have to begin to realize that YOU are the only person in this world who will take care of YOU. Whenever something like, "I'm never going to be pretty (or thin or smart or whatever) " pops into your head, imagine a GIANT stop sign. Tell yourself, "I will NOT verbally abuse myself just because my (mom, dad, brother) abused me. Their abuse was NOT about me. It was about THEM. " Try to limit your time with your abuser(s). If you must be in their presence, hold onto your car keys or something that reminds you that you can leave at any time. Watch your language to yourself. For example, saying something like, "I've been roped into spending time with Amber " is actually telling yourself you have NO CONTROL over who you spend time with. You must have CONTROL to feel good about yourself. Say, "I am spending time with Amber because she makes me feel good about myself " instead. You must work every day, every hour on learning to talk to yourself nicely. Pat yourself on the back when you do something well. Don't beat yourself up over mistakes - there are always many other people out there willing to beat you up instead. Get rid of all friends who, even jokingly, call you stupid, ugly, whatever. People treat you the way you allow them to treat you. Once you don't allow them to talk to you that way, they will stop. And once YOU stop allowing yourself to talk to yourself that way, you will find you feel much better about life in general. It is a very difficult thing, and you might need to see a counselor for help. Best of luck!!!!

Posted by: Barry on 2010-03-16, 18:46:18

Practice a relaxation method, daily, and when needed, such as: (free) drcoxconsulting.com/ managing-stress.html or altmedicine.about.com/ cs/ mindbody/ a/ Meditation.htm or wikihow.com/ Meditate or Yoga Nidra, (no flexibility required) at your-mental-health.8m.com/ blank_25.html Qi Gong, Tai Chi, or regular yoga suits others better. Give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you. Use the searchbar at mercola.com "EFT " & "EFT therapists ", or tapping.com (13 free videos) Professional is best. - There is a version for use in public places, (if you want to, you can claim to have a headache, as you massage/ lightly tap your temples, but you would then be restricted to subvocalising: saying it to yourself in your mind: "Even though I currently have low self esteem, I deeply and completely accept myself. " I have recently encountered the opinion that, just as it is important to build a house on a solid foundation, so it is with self esteem. Learn to forgive yourself for your past mistakes, and failures, or inadequacies. Accept that you, too are just a human being, with the frailties, insecurities, and tendency to err, occasionally, that the rest of us have. That is the beginning of self love, self acceptance, and self esteem. Regularly monitor your internal monologue (self talk): write down the negative ones: "I'm really ugly " and then the converse: "I'm fairly good looking ", and next time you become aware that you are thinking the former, visualise, as vividly as possible, a big "STOP!!! " sign, and/ or a stern faced person wagging a finger at you, and deliberately repeat 5 times, either aloud, in a big voice, if alone, or subvocally (to yourself, in your mind), the converse affirmation. Some people go so far as to keep a wide rubber band in their pocket, then put it around their wrist, when they catch themselves backsliding, stretch and release it, as a method of reprogramming their mind sooner, but I don't regard it as being strictly necessary. Volunteer, even from home, at first, to provide a solid basis in reality for the daily affirmations: "I am a good person, who is valued by my community, because I... (insert activity here).. " Google: "volunteer from home " Edit one page of an Ebook daily, at: gutenberg.org/ wiki/ Main_Page Did you know that you can help us produce ebooks by proof-reading just one page a day? Go to: Distributed Proofreaders see: gutenberg.org/ wiki/ Category:Volunteering Write letters in support of prisoners of conscience, for Amnesty International. Many innocent people, whose only reason for incarceration was that they were a thorn in the side of a repressive government, have had their release secured as a result of a flood of letters, from all over the world. Also see supportpath.com/ and neoteen.org ELSEWHERE: Help for 2 hours per fortnight, at Meals on Wheels. Other suggestions are: As a literacy volunteer, animal shelter, Red cross/ crescent, soup kitchen, Greenpeace, nursing home/ hospital, Habitat for Humanity, United Way, or as a Big Sister, or Big Brother. Make a list of all your good points, strengths, and achievements. Put it somewhere so you can easily refer to it, from time to time; perhaps on the refrigerator door, or print it; (large typeface, or capitalise) have it framed, and place in your bedroom, or in a position of prominence, such as on the television, or lounge room wall.

Posted by: Minister on 2010-03-16, 19:15:47

Hurting people hurt others. They are sick and being mean makes them feel better. People/ kids/ parents do mean things or lie to manipulate. They just want the reaction so they can get high feel good from it. The words are not true. They have the problem. When you have a bad past/ rejection/ father gone it lets other things start. Depression, cutting, OCD, anxiety, panic attacks, hearing voices can all come from a tramautic past. Its opens doors to the negative and they start to dwell closeby. You can talk to me or google "emotional abuse " and see all the definitions and see its all true. Knowing the truth is the step to freedom from pain. Negative people and abuse brings spiritual problems so praying to get rid of negative things of a spiritual nature is often needed after years of abuse. Its not you its them. If present they need to be told to leave in Jesus name. 1. Google- "Emotional Abuse ". Read 20+ sites. BULLYING 20 sites 2. Realize its their problem. 3. Realize anger hurts you not them. 4. Google "Sinners prayer "- stops sadness. 5. Google "Deliverance Prayers " Click my name for help see profile. Source Exp in a ministry