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Question: 48 year old woman with mindset and logic of a child?

(Posted by: kbrooke on 2009-11-27 01:19:39)

As long as I can remember, my mom has acted like a child. I don't mean in terms of her intelligence or anything like that. She just acts like a young teenager. She repeats herself over and over. She talks behind others' backs, will go out of her way to do things simply to make people angry or upset if they've wronged her in some way, and when arguing, lacks any sort of basic logical skills and simply twists her opponents' words around in order to avoid the real subject at hand. She added my ex- boyfriend on facebook and sent him a message saying she did it "to make me mad ". I wish I could provide more concrete examples, but it just seems like the workings of her mind just stopped maturing when she was young. Is there some sort of psychological problem that could be causing this? I know something is wrong with her, I just don't know what.

Posted by: stilleww on 2009-11-27, 01:23:59

Tell her to grow the hell up. she seems like she just likes to be a butt. the 80's are over. ahaha

Posted by: ChiLady on 2009-11-27, 01:29:46

It is more than having an immature personality? Maybe she is attention-seeking--needs the focus to be on her all the time? There are some disorders that fall under 'personality disorders', that she may have. It is difficult to guess, without knowing more.

Posted by: Nrthple on 2009-11-27, 01:30:17

Possibly head trauma as a teenager or some type of substance abuse? If she neither of those then she might be doing to fit in and be 'cute'. Only other reason that seems possible is she let's her temper get the best of her and acts rashly.

Posted by: letterstoheather on 2009-11-27, 01:32:58

Some of us are emotionally immature, and haven't progressed on an emotional level since our teenaged years. Emotionally stunted people usually have a very low sense of self-esteem, so they talk about others to make themselves feel better (if only for the moment). And if your mother is doing things to "make you mad ", it's probably because she is angry inside and wants others to feel it, too. Another example is the way you describe your mother being spiteful and hurtful of others. I know someone like your mother and she has absolutely no friends, except for me. I accept her at face value, and have realized she does have SOME good qualities and we have a few interests in common. At times i feel sorry for her, but i live and let live. It's senseless trying to control her behavior (i can barely control my own!) take care of YOU - that's the best you can do.

Posted by: winter fog Renaissance on 2009-11-27, 01:48:53

Don't be afraid , instead of posting it on an internet forum, confront your mum, show her this question and assertively bring up the topic making sure to be calm and confident.