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Help i think my lack of self confidence may be affecting my judgement!?
Okay basically I am studying for my AS levels at the moment in biology, chemistry, maths and spanish. At the moment I am seriously considering either outright dropping spanish or possibly even swapping it to history, despite how late into the course it is? I want to study vet med and so dont necessarily need the 4 AS levels and could get away with the 3, and it also means that spanish is my least important subject.My spanish teacher however thinks that it is my lack of sef confidence that is making me want to drop spanish, and to an extent i can see where she is coming from because it doesnt exactly look like I am going to get a bad grade in it at the end of the day.I am a perfectionist and so I put a lot of pressure on myself to do the best I possibly can in everything that I do. My grandad has also just recently been rediagnosed with cancer and this time it is terminal and so I have a lot of stress from that as well as all of my school work and perfectionism.Just wondered if anyone had any advice?

Why can`t plastic Surgery be an option used in the cases of disorders related to lack of self confidence?
We have heard of cases where suicide attempts or cases of suicide have taken place because of self hate.This comes as a result of having features that one hates but on talking people tend to take it as a psycological problem other than a physical one.Plastic surgery can be used to treat this especially here in Africa where we really need it.Not for the few rich who use it as a beauty factor.lt could really help.

Do insecurity and lack of self confidence cause slouching?

How to combat a lack of self confidence/low self esteem?
So how do I do it? So im 15 and the only time I leave my house is to go to School or Baseball training, I stay inside most of the time playing games and doing school work. I don't go out because it has always been a inconvenience for someone and now I'm completely put off going out anymore. Because of this I find myself with low self esteem and confidence.Im just bored out of my mind after getting next to nothing for Christmas while my friends seem to get amazing gifts their stories of Christmas parties New Years Eve Parties.

Constantly reviewing myself - lack of self confidence?
for the past 5 6 months ive found my self constantly reviewing my own actions, thoughts and anything i say to anyone. I find it difficult to talk to friends that arn't close, in the way that i use too being my true self i find my self thinking about my speech as im saying it, wondering whether what im saying is right, funny or insuting. Ofcourse, this then means that it impares my own actions, since im not 'being my self' it feels like im monitoring my every action. This also adds a sense of anxiety, i find it hard to be around friends and other people, wanting to be more on my own for worry of being monitored. And again, ofcourse, this impares my own actions and my willingness to socialise as it seems ive already decided on what other people think of me ie. if someone thinks im a funny person, ill often find im more relaxed and confident if they think im not confident, ill be shy and reserved.The only time i can truly be my self is when im around close friends or family.

Have you ever suffered from low self esteem..or lack of self confidence? If so how did you overcome?
I have suffered with low self esteem and a lack of confidence, due to my overweight figure for almost all my life. I have tried to lose weight but no matter what I did I wouldnt lose more than 5 pounds. Before I was trying to lose weight and boost my self esteem to attrack men and be like other women.. Now I am working on my goals for ME I have started changing my eating habits and exercising daily..It would help me to hear positive feedback from those that have suffered from the same problems..and let me know how you have overcome.

Loneliness, shyness and lack of self confidence and social skills: how to deal with this horrible combination?
I'm lonely. I'm constantly forced in social situations at school, but I always screw up. I can't start or maintain a good conversation. People won't talk to me that often either. Whenever I finally talk to someone I end up saying awkard stuff in an awkard way, thus ending the conversation. I have friends but they're no real friends. They don't support me and they're not stimulating for my social life. They're mostly PC and WoW addicts and don't go out themselves. How they manage to lead a happy life is beyond me. Even my best friend doesn't support me when I try to open up and talk about my feelings. I've been trying so hard for the past 5,5 years and the situation has just slightly improved. My feelings have worsened though. I try to be as positive as possible and noone knows I'm depressed, so it's not like people don't like me because I'm negative. I lack social skills. Pls give me some advice. Should I see a therapist? Are there people who can help with this kind of stuff?

Please help with lack of self confidence.....?
I am a mum to a 2yr old lovely little boy and I am at home with him as my boyfriend works and I work a part time job too but recently I feel my confidence has soured down hill and it is really getting to me as some days I can cry about the most trivial things even so I annoy myself.I do take my little boy to some toddler groups but some days I don't wish to go which makes me feel so awful as I always worry how my little boy with sharing as he has been going through the typical terrible two's thing of not sharing so that worries me and I still keep giving my boyfriend 20 questions when he comes in from a night out and I really don't need to as I trust him but not other women.Heeelllllp me it's not me being like this irrational and jealous.I don't really talk much to ppl can you tell as I don't want to cry and burden them esp my boyfriend as he has enough on with his work.Please any advice on self confidence I will try as I would like to get back to the real me thankyou for ur timexYes my man lets me go out and vice versa.I think it's important to go out with your own sets of friends when your mum and dad and each other of course lol it makes you feel sane.So yeah I have no problems with that it's just the thought of other women talking to him if they did that gets to me but I have to try and work on my confidence more then I would not feel the need to feel like this so its defiatly a confidence thing.CheersLike i had just said I do take my son to toddler groups but when my friends are not there that go too then I don't really bother but I take my little boy out instead as I don't like him to be cooped inside all day at toddler groups or we go swimming,shopping.feed the ducks so I think I do just fine in entertaining my son but what I am trying to get at is that some days are low than others and I deal with them as best I can but I am just asking for advice on more confidence in myself as I knmow this will help me in everything.As for my asking questions well that I know is not needed as I know i have to deal with that and just relax and enjoy my ME time more when my other half does go out mabe,so thanks for advice so far xArr thanks for ur answers so far yeah both my boyf and I do go out together when we can too and he does help with his share of the parenting alot too which I find so helpful and when he comes home from work he does help me alot help each other really.I don't know what it is about me when he does go out but I am reading up on Paul Mckenna cds to help with my confidence and I have said to my better half that he is welcome to go out for lunch with any of his female friends just to prove that i do trust him 100 % think of other stuff I can help myself with the jealousy thing as it is so irratating.Lol someone said do role play to see what we are like and tha sounds quite fun.We are off to Rome for a long weekend soon just on our own as we've never been away the 3yrs we've been together so it'll do us good I shall pamper him and my parents are having our little boy fro us I will try and relax,nervous of the flight though but thats another column lol thankyou Px

I feel a lack of self confidence?
Normally I feel confident about how I look and my drawings and stories,but now I feel like I look ugly and I can't draw,sing, or write as well as I used to.I started feeling like this about a week ago,and nothing major happened to make me feel it.I mean,I haven't thought about cutting or anything and I'm worried about myself,so that has to mean something,right? All advice accepted.

How do I hide my lack of self confidence better?

Recently i have a lack of self confidence...?
because of one comment a classmate said to me, i feel really down. i'm afraid of what people are saying behind my back. i just got facebook and i was happy because i got to talk to my friends online. but now i'm scared they'll say, ' eww, why does SHE have facebook' is there any way for me to be more happy? i really want to go back the way i was..

Lack of self confidence, any success story to share, any solution for me?
I grew up with a very protective and demanding parents. Today unfortunatelly I am by myself. I have always felt this lack of self confidence, in the past I was asking others to do or say things instead of me. Today if I don't do it nobody will.I am a very creative person and have a lot to say and to share. However I can give a wrong first opinion because of my anxiety.the symptoms are shaking, heart beating, the face is tensed, empty mind,stamming, sweting, redness etc...I am affraid of people's judgement, of people's look. That is terrible and very penalizing in everyday's life, I try to work on it, I am seeing improvements, but I need some external help i cannot control sweting and shaking... .I am not fond of drugs, but I might try beta blockers or something like that,I heard they had the same effects as alcohol which actually today is my only solution .I am first going to try the bach flowers if it doesn't give any satisfactory result then I will have no choice than trying something stronger.However I would appreciate any comment, success story or any advice.I know I should see a specialist but how much will it cost? Taking into consideration I am an international student with a not so good health insurrance.Is there a chance not to gain weight if I come to take anti blockers?I also heard about the musician's drugs any opinion about that?Thank you. TAS thank you for your answer.I have tried to convince myself by so many ways, one of the best was " what is talking 5minutes in front of 10persons compared to Madonna singing in front of 10,000 persons or more." But sometimes the body reacts in a uncontrolable way.I will see in Wallmart these generic medicaments but I guess I need a prescription first, right?I will work with a counselor for sure, I would love to have started already, but right now I cannot afford to get several sessions.You said drugs by themselves don't work, actually alcohol is working fine with me. But I cannot live this way.And I want to some days be able to attack the problem on its foundations, I can only do it with a counselor I guess.thank you for participating I really appreciate it.What comes back is that it is psychological and that I have to work on that, i definitely agree,I know the main problem is psychological,but when one is unable to say or do a single thing due to body weird reactions I came up with a realistic decision that I might need drugs to help me first to control my body, and then through practice and acquiring self confidence lower the consumption of drugs until stopping them.Again I am not fond of drugs, I generaly don't even take them when I have a flu.Here it is different,that is handicaping me.I cannot continue avoiding public speech because I am too shy..Today however determinated I am I really cannot do it by my own.I have tried, convincing myself,changing my eating habits,exercising,etc.nothing worked,i did see some improvements but i am far away from the wanted results.It's not easy to talk about it here, but Im happy i did it,& even more that u gave me some tips.

Lack of Self-Confidence?
So, here is my situation. I am a 21 year old woman, newly married and recently just recieved my first manager position. I am the Assistant General Manager at Cost Plus World Market. Being my first real manager job, I lack confidence in my job. What I mean is that I feel as though I am not doing well....I know I am qualified for the job but I cannot help feeling that everyone thinks I am incompitent. How do I over come this lack of self confidence in my job, and has this ever happened to any of you....if so, what do you do to deal with it? Thank you

What do you call this? lack of self-confidence? please HELP?
well im 21 years old guy. I went abroad and left my family when i was 16. Im a professional computer programmer and a great artist musician . Recently I experience some kind of weird feelings. I feel like when i walk in street everyone looks at me in a bad way, but I dont see anything special on me. Im such a typical guy, I wear typical jeans, short hair and no extra things on me. when I go out with my GF I feel like everyone looks at us. It causes lack of self confidence in me because I dont feel comfortable, mostly when they look at my GF. Im a baby face handsome guy, I feel like my face is not man enough, thats why people look at me like that. I dont know what to do, but I know that I suffer and I suffer a lot, its about 2 years, that I feel this. what kind of feeling is this? Is it a mental issue, or really lack of self confidence? why do I feel im not man enough? Is it really something wrong in my personality? sorry for bad english and thanks for helping me when I feel people checking me, I look back at them, and I see they really look at me in a bad way, like I have something wrong on me. I feel lack of self esteem and by GF is 4 years older than me, and I feel like I cant take good care of her, and that causes lack in me, and also, im not perfect in build, I mean all gils say that Im really man and sexy in build and they wish to be in bed with me, but I feel like im not good in build. I dont know whats wrong in me I seriously dont know ...