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Please help with lack of self confidence.....?
I am a mum to a 2yr old lovely little boy and I am at home with him as my boyfriend works and I work a part time job too but recently I feel my confidence has soured down hill and it is really getting to me as some days I can cry about the most trivial things even so I annoy myself.I do take my little boy to some toddler groups but some days I don't wish to go which makes me feel so awful as I always worry how my little boy with sharing as he has been going through the typical terrible two's thing of not sharing so that worries me and I still keep giving my boyfriend 20 questions when he comes in from a night out and I really don't need to as I trust him but not other women.Heeelllllp me it's not me being like this irrational and jealous.I don't really talk much to ppl can you tell as I don't want to cry and burden them esp my boyfriend as he has enough on with his work.Please any advice on self confidence I will try as I would like to get back to the real me thankyou for ur timexYes my man lets me go out and vice versa.I think it's important to go out with your own sets of friends when your mum and dad and each other of course lol it makes you feel sane.So yeah I have no problems with that it's just the thought of other women talking to him if they did that gets to me but I have to try and work on my confidence more then I would not feel the need to feel like this so its defiatly a confidence thing.CheersLike i had just said I do take my son to toddler groups but when my friends are not there that go too then I don't really bother but I take my little boy out instead as I don't like him to be cooped inside all day at toddler groups or we go swimming,shopping.feed the ducks so I think I do just fine in entertaining my son but what I am trying to get at is that some days are low than others and I deal with them as best I can but I am just asking for advice on more confidence in myself as I knmow this will help me in everything.As for my asking questions well that I know is not needed as I know i have to deal with that and just relax and enjoy my ME time more when my other half does go out mabe,so thanks for advice so far xArr thanks for ur answers so far yeah both my boyf and I do go out together when we can too and he does help with his share of the parenting alot too which I find so helpful and when he comes home from work he does help me alot help each other really.I don't know what it is about me when he does go out but I am reading up on Paul Mckenna cds to help with my confidence and I have said to my better half that he is welcome to go out for lunch with any of his female friends just to prove that i do trust him 100 % think of other stuff I can help myself with the jealousy thing as it is so irratating.Lol someone said do role play to see what we are like and tha sounds quite fun.We are off to Rome for a long weekend soon just on our own as we've never been away the 3yrs we've been together so it'll do us good I shall pamper him and my parents are having our little boy fro us I will try and relax,nervous of the flight though but thats another column lol thankyou Px
Have you ever suffered from low self esteem..or lack of self confidence? If so how did you overcome?
I think most of it is because i have been overweight for most of my teenage years, during high school i basically hid my self from any social gatherings, school events, proms, parties. I finally lost all the weight, about 60 lbs, after high school and now am very healthy working out and eating right. That still has not done much, 7 days a week after work i find my self doing the same thing, sitting in front of this computer. I dont know what it is. I feel like my life is a repeat episode and all i do is the same nothing every week, i have very few people i consider close friends and have never been on a single date... iono how to break out of this, i dont know how much of this i can take. I c all these tv shows and reality shows and things of how great and fun and easy lives r, i just wish so hard i had any of that, and now looking back i wasted the supposed " best years of my life" in highschool doing nothing but keeping to myself.. I dont know where i am goin in anythng ne more
About a major lack of self confidence?
I know this is probably a typical question for a person my age 18 but all my life i've suffered horrible issues with my self confidence. I'm a bit overweight and although that is one of the main reasons, I know there are other things. I've tried EVERYTHING. Prayer, counceling, going to friends, everything that has been recommended to me I'm on meds But nothing seems to work. It's really strange though, i'm EXTREAMLY optimistic when it comes to everything else but me. I'm SO shy, I never know what to say, I get scared to call people on the phone, I don't wanna drive to work I don't own a car but borrow my parents, because of the way I drive.I got in an accident in October. I know why I have the problems, my dad and I don't get along and thats a totally different story. I just don't know who to turn to my parents can only help so much. My friends are always busy with their boyfriends of 2 years. And usually they just sit on the phone as I rant. I'm almost an adult and i'm scared.
Looking for a camp or retreat for adults to help anxiety and lack of self confidence.?
I have tried medication and therapy for years to no avail. My career is failing. I have lots of stress headaches. Looking for an intense retreat or camp experience to help me must be in the Midwest of the USA. Any suggestions?
Do insecurity and lack of self confidence cause slouching?
Body conscious/ lack of self confidence?
I am 13 years old and I am body conscious with what I wear and the shape and the way my body is. I feel self conscious about what people think of me. I do sport aerobics have to wear leotards and I am quite thin not skinny but flat chested When I train, I feel horrible, I hate my legs and I don't like my hips either. My legs are not really big but they are a little but I probably feel like they are also bigger then they are. I wear a lot of baggy clothing because I feel this way. I feel like I am getting worse. I am losing a lot of self confidence and self esteem, it isn't people bulling me about it, but it's like there is something in me that is telling me there is or there is an illusion that I feel people look at my body. I am staying up later every night from 10 30pm to 11 30pm and even 12pm. I don't know what to do Please be nice about itAny self experience or advice, stories would be very much appreicated
How do I hide my lack of self confidence better?
Why can`t plastic Surgery be an option used in the cases of disorders related to lack of self confidence?
We have heard of cases where suicide attempts or cases of suicide have taken place because of self hate.This comes as a result of having features that one hates but on talking people tend to take it as a psycological problem other than a physical one.Plastic surgery can be used to treat this especially here in Africa where we really need it.Not for the few rich who use it as a beauty factor.lt could really help.
Help i think my lack of self confidence may be affecting my judgement!?
Okay basically I am studying for my AS levels at the moment in biology, chemistry, maths and spanish. At the moment I am seriously considering either outright dropping spanish or possibly even swapping it to history, despite how late into the course it is? I want to study vet med and so dont necessarily need the 4 AS levels and could get away with the 3, and it also means that spanish is my least important subject.My spanish teacher however thinks that it is my lack of sef confidence that is making me want to drop spanish, and to an extent i can see where she is coming from because it doesnt exactly look like I am going to get a bad grade in it at the end of the day.I am a perfectionist and so I put a lot of pressure on myself to do the best I possibly can in everything that I do. My grandad has also just recently been rediagnosed with cancer and this time it is terminal and so I have a lot of stress from that as well as all of my school work and perfectionism.Just wondered if anyone had any advice?
Recently i have a lack of self confidence...?
because of one comment a classmate said to me, i feel really down. i'm afraid of what people are saying behind my back. i just got facebook and i was happy because i got to talk to my friends online. but now i'm scared they'll say, ' eww, why does SHE have facebook' is there any way for me to be more happy? i really want to go back the way i was..
Lack of self confidence?
I happen to be lack of confidence since i get jealous of a person better than me but im not that ugly im positive to be handsome if i would care but i don't coz i compare my self so deep with this guy now im running out of reason to stay what i do you think this could cure? give me a statement howim 14 yrs i compared my self to freddie highmore...cant you get it im not ugly im one of the hot teen in the college i mean i treat my self like this because i compare my self at young actor now i cannot get out my head how to be like him one dayand im not fat im well maintain im thin only we just happen to be un match still he has what i wanted to haveim lack of self confidence because its only what i feel but my outlook is really great its just unmatch
If a lack of self-confidence is making you perform badly in many things...?
... how can you do something well, so it washes your lack of self confidence away? its a vicious cycle and i'm stuck on it.and i must say i dont really care about intellectual capabilities, im referring to things such as physical abilities, look, social skills, etc.to be honest, i have good grades but i dont give a fuck, and never will while other things are going bad.
Lack of self confidence, any success story to share, any solution for me?
I grew up with a very protective and demanding parents. Today unfortunatelly I am by myself. I have always felt this lack of self confidence, in the past I was asking others to do or say things instead of me. Today if I don't do it nobody will.I am a very creative person and have a lot to say and to share. However I can give a wrong first opinion because of my anxiety.the symptoms are shaking, heart beating, the face is tensed, empty mind,stamming, sweting, redness etc...I am affraid of people's judgement, of people's look. That is terrible and very penalizing in everyday's life, I try to work on it, I am seeing improvements, but I need some external help i cannot control sweting and shaking... .I am not fond of drugs, but I might try beta blockers or something like that,I heard they had the same effects as alcohol which actually today is my only solution .I am first going to try the bach flowers if it doesn't give any satisfactory result then I will have no choice than trying something stronger.However I would appreciate any comment, success story or any advice.I know I should see a specialist but how much will it cost? Taking into consideration I am an international student with a not so good health insurrance.Is there a chance not to gain weight if I come to take anti blockers?I also heard about the musician's drugs any opinion about that?Thank you. TAS thank you for your answer.I have tried to convince myself by so many ways, one of the best was " what is talking 5minutes in front of 10persons compared to Madonna singing in front of 10,000 persons or more." But sometimes the body reacts in a uncontrolable way.I will see in Wallmart these generic medicaments but I guess I need a prescription first, right?I will work with a counselor for sure, I would love to have started already, but right now I cannot afford to get several sessions.You said drugs by themselves don't work, actually alcohol is working fine with me. But I cannot live this way.And I want to some days be able to attack the problem on its foundations, I can only do it with a counselor I guess.thank you for participating I really appreciate it.What comes back is that it is psychological and that I have to work on that, i definitely agree,I know the main problem is psychological,but when one is unable to say or do a single thing due to body weird reactions I came up with a realistic decision that I might need drugs to help me first to control my body, and then through practice and acquiring self confidence lower the consumption of drugs until stopping them.Again I am not fond of drugs, I generaly don't even take them when I have a flu.Here it is different,that is handicaping me.I cannot continue avoiding public speech because I am too shy..Today however determinated I am I really cannot do it by my own.I have tried, convincing myself,changing my eating habits,exercising,etc.nothing worked,i did see some improvements but i am far away from the wanted results.It's not easy to talk about it here, but Im happy i did it,& even more that u gave me some tips.
EXTREME lack of self-confidence?
Why do i have guiltiness for one thing most of the time?Is believing that you'll get punished ocd?i feel that for the unwanted thought, i'll get punished by being unable to do thing properly in every aspect of life, such as my thought, movement, and everything will be of curse because of what i didi feel this way anytime i convince myself of being guiltyi feel that i need to ask for forgiveness for what i said or else i'll get punishedi also kind of curse on myself that i'll be doing weird things like suddenly i'll think that i'll be thinking of my movement and im going to look weird, i know that but people are not likely to noticethere's nothing like this system of punishment, right?the only difference and ultimate decision is between heaven and hell?i having a hard time right now, kind of depressed about the blasphemy thing that i did a few years ago, can't let it go because it's such a big deal, but i can't remember if i said the blasphemy or not, i got frustrated saying it in my mind, so i let it outi know it's time to move on, but..1 hour ago 3 days left to answer. Additional Details1 hour agoanswer this on clearly please, do you think whatever anything you do, you have the right and the chance to move on and enjoy yourself?23 minutes ago 3 days left to answer. Additional Details21 minutes agothe only thing i can do now is ask for forgiveness, but i don't want to, i feel like im getting dragged everywhere when i list all the reasons why i shouldn't be guilty and about other thingsshould i just not do it because it's my ocd?everytime when i feel depressed or feel that i need to do something, should i ignore it and move on to fix this?i want to fix it by myself but im ok for a few days, but it comes back, and i have to fight with it again or am i doing wrong?20 minutes agohope you answer my questions instead of telling me to go because i've heard that over 100 times from just this section13 minutes agoif it's something that needs to be fixed, it everything that i do would be on my mind, but constantly have at mostly or more than one thing on my mind to think about all the time unless i convince myself that im free of it because of this reasoni always have to have a reason to have freedom, but there's too many category and factors to think about14 hours ago 3 days left to answer. Additional Details14 hours agoi just think that the thing i did is a really big deal and it's going to make my life stationaryit's extremely badis this the most extreme thing to feel guilty about?if i said f ing jesus out loud, i don't even remember if i said his name or if i said it in my mind after the f wordwhat am i going through, extreme lack of self confidence?14 hours agoim not getting frustrated, im just worried and anxious and depressedim really motivated and im a perfectionist maybei want to become a surgeon, so im really into studying and i love to be the best in everything, especially studies and sportsim really confident at times, but when i think about this or when it doesn't pass smoothly throught my mind, i fail to achieve my full potential
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