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Question: Why i treat others good but treat me bad! how to improve self-esteem!?

(Posted by: Kirk on 2006-06-06 01:55:06)

Hello, everybody i've got a problem worries me everyday! i want to be a man like others, happy, smile. here is my problem. I'm kind guy first, i treat others well, always think of other, don't do thing make others feel bad, even animal...once, i want to take photos for the duck, but they felt not good cuz see my camera, so, i stop taking photos...and i know i can't take interests photos if they are not feel good!!! i always regard others feeling, their thoughts, when they said, can you do me a favor, i will try my best without doubt! but, refers to me, if i want something, i will stop my get it...i felt bad, and live with pain...how can i treat myself good! when i want to talk with someone, i really want to, but i'm not act on it, even anti myself....now i make a good progress, that's not ANTI my feelings, i leant try to work for my feelings... but still hard to do, this is a big problem i think...and worries me everyday! good luck your pal

Posted by: Reality Check on 2006-06-06, 01:59:35

Look your self in the mirror and say something nice about your self every day or every chance you get it works i'm not joking

Posted by: Sharkfishrman on 2006-06-06, 02:18:19

Well, First off you have to know what self esteem is: Self-esteem is how you view life, people and most importantly yourself. When self-esteem is low you almost always feel depressed. Everything around you is viewed in a negative light. You see the world as a harsh, unfair place filled with people out to hurt or ignore you. And you see yourself as a victim. You go through life expecting the worst and inevitably people will let you down. When self-esteem is high you see the world as a good place. You see yourself surrounded by friends. You have a positive attitude and feel good about who you are as well as who people are in general. Most people do not live at the low end of this or the high but somewhere in between. When life tosses us curve balls, or successes our position on this 'line' tends to shift accordingly. The ability to bouce back to a 'nice place' on the line is the difference between someone with healthy self-esteem and someone without. What causes low self-esteem? feeling powerless, childhood problems, physical problems, dealing with prejudice, domestic violence, devastating loss (ie. death in family. How to increase your self-esteem? have fun (hobbies, activities, etc.), set realistic goals, see a therapist (IF you are comfortable doing so), reduce stress (especially home life), find others who can relate (forums, support groups, etc.), give yourself treats (you deserve them!), keep a journal (record your feelings and return to reflect on them), music! Sing, dance...be merry! Good Luck buddy!!!!!

Posted by: tracietuk on 2006-06-06, 04:24:20

You have to start loving yourself, u have one person In this lifetime, and thats yourself, U ever heard of a guy from Usa called Tony Robbins? well, get his motivational cd`s, they are great. Hes a clever man and he will change the way u see yourself and how you treat yourself. Good luck