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Posted by: Belinda J on 2008-07-18, 09:57:20
Feeling good about your self starts internal not trying to fix the outside....some people become obsesed with how other people may see them thinking I wont be excepted by others if im not pretty enough, or thin enough, or fun enough........to much time and energy is spent on impressing others to feel excepted so start with in focus on the things you do like about your self and the things that make you feel good instead of trying to fix or focus on things you do not like..............let your good qualities show and you will be less concerned with other things that make you feel low.................... if you are worried about your apperence you are concentrated too much on what other people think about you........if people say you are pretty and thin go ahead and believe them but think to your self thats not the most important thing about me........think of personality, I am a good person who wants to work hard at goals and dreams, I want to help where I can and focus on more important things in life then just fashion and acceptance........ I used to be the same way, I didn't even realize how obsesed I was it was a secret that no one knew..............i was always told I was pretty and had guys come on to me, but was looking around and seeing all these girls just being hoes........when i would tell a guy I wasn't interested in just flings that i wanted to be friends first and maybe things would evolve they were less interested and moved on to a less prettier girl who had lower self esteem and she got a boost when guys tried getting with her, but i seen something she didn't...they just tried getting with her for one thing.....then those guys would tell other guys not to mess with me that they couldn't get any from me,,,,that made me feel a little sad and left out until I started thinking, well how would I feel about myself if i was a hoe and let guys use me................Yes i would have the attention but for the wrong reasons............we want to impress other girls, we want to impress other guys to feel we are good enough.............but we already are good enough if we are a good person who respects our self and others so look in your self and focus on your good qualities and perfect those already good qualities that doesn't envolve outer apperance..........except yourself for the way you are............do something nice for some one just for the sake of doing the right and nice thing with out expecting praise or a reward and see how you feel.........YOU WILL LIKE IT, and yourself...... |
