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Question: What are some ways to boost self esteem..?

(Posted by: Ultimate Diva on 2006-09-20 01:11:47)

I dont think i have an ugly face, but i hate my body. i think this affects my life, i cant get any guys to approach me..please help

Posted by: Alchemist on 2006-09-21, 08:25:43

"To establish true self-esteem we must concentrate on our successes and forget about the failures and the negatives in our lives. " - Denis Waitley. I think this statement says it all. You are putting all your attention on negatives and it is not doing you any good at all. All these thoughts you have about yourself are creating your world for you. When you start to think that you can't get guys to approach you they won't. So, what you need to do is change the thoughts you have about yourself and others. Try this little experiment. Every time you catch yourself thinking negative things about yourself or other people quickly think of something positive about yourself (or other people) and try to hold this new thought for as long as you can. It will be quite difficult at first but eventually you'll get the hang of it. Over time you will find yourself thinking less negatively and I guarantee your life will change as a result. You see, your new mindset will move you into unchartered waters and one day you will love all those things you hated about yourself because your physical world would have changed. And, that of course will include your body. All the best.

Posted by: gallow on 2006-09-20, 01:13:25

Okay.......first you need to drop all that negative talk about yourself. Then you need to learn to lve yourself. this is very important. how can you love someone else if you don't think of yourself as anything good? this may sound stupid, but write notes to yourself, and leave them around in places that you will see them. write things like " i am beautiful " or " i like ____ about myself " constantly reminding yourself will train you to blelieve all these things that are actually true about you! after you have accoplished this, you will be more self confident. when you are self confident, it shows in your actions and your presence. people are attracted to that. and what about them? why do you need them to approach you.? maybe they feel negative about themselves. we humans all have alot in common even though by appearance you might not think so. good luck!

Posted by: Foxy_chicka_04 on 2006-09-20, 01:13:33

Guys like confidence, have confidence and you can have anyone!!!

Posted by: mel on 2006-09-20, 01:13:59

"It's not what you are that holds you back, it's what you think you are not "

Posted by: ssmindia on 2006-09-20, 01:15:36

Think always positive. Think that you are very great. Think that you can achieve anything you would like to. Think that you are the most beautiful & handsome person etc, etc. Also keep comparing people who are less endowed than you then your self esteem would boost.

Posted by: victory on 2006-09-20, 01:16:57

Self-esteem comes from confidence, and confidence comes from having achieved something. I recommend that you find things that you can not only do, but that you can get better at over time. This will make you feel better about yourself than all the beauty in the world.

Posted by: yellowstonedogs on 2006-09-20, 01:17:16

I'ts a womans world. You approach the guys. I've read enough questions and answers to know there are lots of men feeling the same way. Don't put yourself down, or others will too. How many men do you know married to a physical goddess? There are other characteristics (other than a good body) that are far more important. Make you own list.

Posted by: hopeless on 2006-09-20, 01:18:42

Get over with your low self esteem.It cant help you to find a guy coz what comes first in your mind is...I hate my body...nobody will likes me.Dont say that.The right guy for you and meant for you will just come.Dont lose hope.

Posted by: intenseone on 2006-09-20, 01:19:50

Keep telling yourself over and over again, "I am ok, I am good, I like me so others should too ". Just a suggestion, lemme know if it works.

Posted by: ♥c0c0puffz♥ on 2006-09-20, 01:20:47

Join a gym, YMCA, or an afterschool activity if you still in school. I find that when you sweating it out in the gym you gain a little confidence in yourself especially if you realize you working hard. You need something to accomplish......a goal. Then once you conquered it you will feel like you on top of the world.

Posted by: chillin on 2006-09-20, 01:21:34

1st YOU WILL TRY TO START OFF with small talk ,, dont push to hard that you are lonely ,, that might make them skiddish than on your second or third date go for a little kiss of appretiation. dont rush into thyngs let it fall into your lap good luck +

Posted by: mimi22 on 2006-09-20, 01:24:19

Girl, you are a precious child of God and you are NOT your body type. Who you really are is who you are on the inside, not what you look like. Instead of focusing on your body, go within and focus on your inner beauty. Do you know someone who has such a beautiful spirit that is shines through to their appearance? Guys are attracted to radiant, cheerful women who are confident and find humor in the every day, and you don't have to be a size 2 to do that! Make a list of your inner qualities and focus on expanding those. You can do it girl, go for it! :)

Posted by: yippee_hey on 2006-09-20, 01:24:20

It's like when you get dressed and you don't like sth...look yourself in the mirror and she what has to change...then just decide what you have to change...but DECIDE!!!Be patient for the results and everything is gonna be fine...you will feel more confident day by day...me personally i used to have 90kgs and now i have 65...i don't know if your problem is weight(most of the women has this)but try to improve it.

Posted by: lockerridge on 2006-09-20, 01:27:26

I know a woman who is not pretty at all. She is attractive, but not really pretty. she gets every man in the room to look at her when she walks in. not by sexy clothes or wild colored hair or tonguenails. she is classy. she walks with her head up, she is gracious to everyone. she smiles and flirts in a lowkey manner, and is always polite and curteous. she wears clothes that she knows she looks good in, because she gets lots of opinions before she actually goes out init. in shortt she knows what works, and she works it ,' the only thing I can't say is classy about the woman is her ambition for a husband. she told me one time that she would never marry a poor man because she was never going out with a poor man. so this is the way she does it . you choose.